Putting into practice what I have learned...

[Livnlearn]

Didn't know OW2 had a H - does he know about the affair?

Both OW are married, and both left their husbands. OW 1 in the same week that H decided to walk, and in the case of OW 2 there was some long saga about how awful her H was and how he cleaned her out of money - so how come he is paying her now???

He must know about the A as she has been living on and off in this country for the last eight months!

Or maybe he just thought she had slid down the back of the sofa, like in that Gary Larson cartoon???

As for H's anger at her landlord, and at various other people - anger is often a manifestation of depression in men. When my H was at his worst, he changed from a normally pretty mellow guy to Mr. Road Rage. Your detachment helps a lot for you to deal with this.

Ellie, you have posted about this to me numerous times, and I think I have only just recently 'got it'!! So, I don't take it personally now.

Did I mention that H says he has been waking up at 3 or 4 a.m. every morning for the past few months? He talks about the boredom of his life. Isn't consistently waking up at night/early morning a sign of depression too?

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