Well, I got up early on Saturday to get D ready to be picked up to go stay with her Dad. I packed a couple of food items as a little treat for them. (Never heard any thanks for that. He also phoned early morning and asked me to tell his landlord to please pick up some items on the way up for him, and to send up some yogurts with D as he didn't have any up there...) After she left, I went back to bed and woke up at 2pm. I guess I needed that sleep!
Then I got on with my planned stuff and went to bed at a reasonable time.
On Sunday morning the phone rang a few times, I just let it ring. I just felt like being unavaialable and perhaps a bit mysterious. H left a message one time telling me that D had just left, and would arrive in about an hour.
I called back shortly afterwards and told him I was home to receive D, so no problem. H answered the phone after many rings and sounded out of breath, and didn't seem to want to talk any further, so I ended the call 'happily'.
Sunday evening we had friends over, with their kids, and that was nice.
Monday the whole day I was very busy, and in the evening I had more friends over for dinner. The phone rang while they were here and some music was playing and H asked, whats all that noise? I said, that's just some music I am playing... sounded chirpy but busy, which I was! I said bye and handed the phone to D to talk to her Dad.
So, he rang again this evening, and asked, are you too busy to talk? (He has NEVER asked that before!) I said busy, but not too busy to talk. He said, I will come down on Thursday, to take D out to lunch. I might see the doctor as well in the morning. I pointed out that the doctor's surgery was open in the afternoon on a Thursday, so he said, OK that's great. Then I handed the phone to D.
I have to admit, I have been busy the last few days and it really does help me to detach from H's drama a lot. I am not feeling that bothered about what he is up to or worrying about whether he will invite me for lunch. Quite honestly, I am enjoying doing my own stuff just now.
I need to discuss Christmas quite soon, if only to make plans for myself should he decide to take D and do whatever he wants on his own with her and without me. As for the op thing, if he mentions again that he won't be mobile or whatever, I will make the offer to him about staying here, otherwise I will say nothing.
I am dropping the rope about playing his secretary somewhat, but he still hasn't a clue about so many things, like the timings of the doctor's surgery.
D came down having done all of her written homework, but none of the stuff she had to study. I asked her and she confirmed that her Dad didn't help her with her homework. She also at one point was talking about what they did, and then said, I wish you could come up one time too. I just said, I know you do.
I am having my hair done tomorrow, but I don't think I will be seeing H this week. I have plans, possibly, to be away with D this weekend.
I have done a lot of thinking and reading, thinking about my situation, and about the quality of my marriage before all this happened, and just detaching from the day to day worry and drama.
I need to continue in this vein for a while, methinks! I don't have TIME to be depressed! I must make it a habit to invite friends over more often, at least once a week for a meal, it makes me concentrate on the entertaining and of course we have fun. I will have had three evenings of cooking and entertaining in the last four days, by tomorrow!
Got to get to bed at a reasonable time!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
