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By the way, H says he will need to take it easy for a few days after they remove the growth (on his leg) as he will have stitches, and he says in the hills he needs to be mobile. I would like to tell him that he is welcome to put up here for a few days afterwards so he can be comfortable. Hope he doesn't see it as smothering or manipulation.



I think he's fishing for the invitation, myself

Make the offer, in a very simple manner "you know you're welcome to stay here if you need to". Then don't pursue it further.

Hey - if he's at your house for a few days, it would give you the opportunity to create a little "mystery" - dress up and go out on a "date" one night, get flowers delivered to your apartment the next day You could wait a day or so and see how he's behaving before you put this plan into motion.

Glad it is a carcinoma, not a melanoma. Although it sounds like a big one, they usually are not as likely to metastasize.

Ellie