I forgot to say that last night sis and I were IMing, and she started saying derogatory things about H and his relatives, and I just ignored them, pretended I was distracted by something my end and didn't respond to her digs. I know that last year I vented away to sis about things, this was mostly before knowing about DB and stuff. I now see how utterly unconstructive it is (in fact destructive), so I avoid it as much as I can. I cannot be in the right frame of mind to GAL and forgive H and be good to myself and H if I am constantly raking up H's misdemeanors and talking him down to third parties.
I have realised this, no matter how "DESERVING" (by their "BAD" behaviour) of our bad/angry/ill tempered responses our spouses are, if we continually make our Ms an unwelcoming place to be, then our spouses will look elsewhere. And that's what happened.
This morning, H rings and says he has his appointment with the doctor at four o'clock tomorrow. He is coming down to the city and wants to take D out for lunch from school, will I let her teacher know? I said, OK. Then he says, do you want to come too? I said, OK! Then H says, by the way, I am having another mail order package delivered to your address, so if it comes by tomorrow, will you bring it along with you? I must have sounded a little questioning in my pause, 'cause he says, it is too difficult to change the delivery address from what it was. Really??
So, let's see what tomorrow brings!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
