This weekend I plan to hook up (they are coming over) with the relatives of H (actually his nephew who is nearly our age, his wife and their two kids - D's cousins who are two boys her age and a little younger.) I nearly fell out of touch with them when all this happened, but we are in touch again, at their instigation. We were going to meet around the time I was called away when my mother died, we had to cancel, now we will do something this weekend.

H rang to talk to D this evening, mentioned that he might get a lift down this weekend so maybe he could see D or something - did I have plans? I said, yes, I had plans. He said what? I said, they are not yet fixed but I DO have plans.

We agreed to talk later.

I had originally thought I would call H over when his relatives came, but now I am thinking,

1) I don't want his presence to put a damper on things, at least on my mood, and
2) Will we have enough sleeping space with two adults and two kids coming over and H not wanting to share the matrimonial bed??

I don't want to seem like I am deliberately keeping him out of the loop, but I am beginning to wonder if I worry too much about H's feelings in all this and whether I really should just drop the rope completely and carry on as if he doesn't exist?

Thoughts?

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates