I will answer your question another time, as I have guests coming to dinner, and have to go cook.
However, just wanted to journal. H rang this evening - he always picks Friday evenings to deliver his whammies, I've noticed! Sort of something to chew on over the weekend.
Anyway, he rings, and tells me the times for D getting picked up and what time they will arrive back here at my place in the evening. I say, fine.
Then, there's a long pause, and H says, I just want us to be clear about one thing.
I said, and what is that?
H says, this thing about being your ex-husband... I suppose yes, technically, we are not ex yet. But I want us to be clear.
I waited. (Listening!!)
Then I said, H, you do whatever you feel comfortable with, OK?
H paused, thinking. Then he said, I'd like to come down.
I said, OK, see you then!
H says, are you sure you are comfortable with that?
I reply, sure! See you then.
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Ok, thinkgs to note.
I have not invited him to stay or even to eat lunch out with me since I returned from the summer vacation, it has all been his initiative. We have done lunch once and this will be his third overnight stay. You could be cynical and say it is for his convenience I suppose.
I have sent him short friendly emails and rung once or twice, mostly to share stuff about D and school. Maybe H feels I am still too pursuing? What do folks think? I don't exactly jump on him when he gets through the door, he sleeps in another room from me.
I get this feeling, that because I am happy for H to stay and evidently enjoy his visits, that he is scared I am imagining it "means something".
Anyway, got to go!
Enjoy your evening all!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
