You are not ploughing alone, as we are all here for you or at least I can say with assurance I am here, and I care.
How's that?
It is lonely, it is tough, the demands of being the predominantly on-duty parent are exhausting I know.
Yesterday was my brother's 29th birthday, and he called me as I had thought he might. He is traveling the world on his 31 ft sailboat, his own self proclaimed voyage of self discovery.
In the interest of trying to maintain my R with him, I told him I just need you to love and support me. I do not want or need your disapproval regarding the change in my R with H. He said that he did love and support me but that he felt the need to also play devil's advocate.
I told my brother that the devil whispered enough crap in my ear and that I did not need him to do the same.
I will see what speaking directly to my needs might accomplish.
Have you read some of Sage's introspective/reflective thread? There is a lot there, but one of the things I was reminded of was relegating OW to her proper place. And that the presence of OW was not necessarily a completely accurate baormeter of my R with H.
