LNL - have to tell you a funny story about my H's "melanoma".
I was gone to London for 10 days with my mom, right before the bomb (while I was gone H took the kids out to dinner with soon-to-be oW ).
While I was gone, my H (a gynecologist) noticed a spot on his forearm. It looked suspicious for a melanoma (which are not benign, btw, but malignant). Dark, irregular borders, etc. He tried scrubbing it but it didn't come off.H showed it to a couple of colleagues (never ask for dermatological advice from gynecologists!) and they agreed it looked very worrisome, so he set up an appointment with the dermatologist to have it removed (malignant melanoma runs in my H's family).
Anyway, he showed it to me when I got home. I thought it was odd that such a thing could have escaped my attention, and certainly a melanoma wouldn't just appear there in the last ten days. So I got out my bottle of Simple Green (a cleaning solution) and washed his "melanoma" right off his arm - it was a spot of tree sap!
You would have thought my H would have been relieved, but I actually think he was mad at first - now I realize I probably removed one of his "life is too short" rationalizations for the affair!!
This was shortly after My Big Fat Greek Wedding came out, and I felt just like the dad in the movie who thought Windex could cure everything, including zits!
And the moral is - go to a family physician (like me!) if you want a real diagnosis
Ellie
PS - if he is making noises about coming down, go ahead and let him bring it up - but don't be afraid to extend a "casual" invite if he seems to be asking for one.
