Hi Pam and Slowly

Thanks for your visits.

Here are some things that I have to keep in mind now in my R with H -

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No R talks initiated from my side at all.

No pressure or even "innocent" questions that could be construed as pressure, about H's plans for travel, moving down to city, whatever.

Have an open mind about what H might be feeling - he might be teething!!

Validate all I can, do not contradict or defend.

Do not take things personally.

Affrim as much as I can. Think of concrete ways to offer affirmation.

Create some mystery about my life.

Concentrate on ME.

Make the effort to look a million dollars!

Stay busy and focussed.

Be a friend to H and be fun to be with.

Think of him as a new guy I might be interested in.

If I make an overture by email or whatever, keep things low key and MONITOR results.

Figure out more precisely how to speak H's Love Language.

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Now I have to come up with some concrete things so I know what all the above will look like in practice.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates