is just getting off (LDW)acceptable?

[SolidMechanic]

Again, SRVfan, I apologize for my tone and personalizing my message. Some see the glass half empty, others see the glass half full (engineers see that it has a Design Safety Factor of 2).

You received a gift. It wasn't exactly your size, and it wasn't your favorite color. As people often do, she got you what she wanted rather than what you wanted, which is typical of most gift giving. But it was a gift, nonetheless.

Do you think when she has sex with you, that she can sense that, even then, you are still unhappy with the act? Is this an incentive for her to go any deeper? On the one hand you shower her with ILYs and massages, on the other hand, you've got one foot out the door. How sincere are the ILYs? Are you committed? Might she interpret your actions as an insincere attempt to butter her up for sex?

One more time, I guess I'm not in a position to give good other validation. Yes, I've read two of Dr Schnarch's books, and they occupy a prominent place in my Literary Shrine to Marital Sexual Futility. All I was trying to say, in my clumsy, fused way is that you can take what little you've gotten and expand on it. But you can't do that if you just throw it back in her face and tell her you have no use for it.

SM