So i should settle for a quarter loaf and be happy.... the fact that you are having difficulty being empathetic for people who are willing to talk about the quality of their sex in an effort to understand it says everything about you and nothing about us.
you sound resentful. I think your resentment is misplaced since i haven't done anything to you.
in case you're interested this is her modus operandi always. the environment is always arranged to limit the amount of emotional contact. (if you're interested read Schnarch's Passionate Marriage with respect to the pushing and shoving that goes on and is played out in FP.
by the way, i don't know how much or little sex you have: i've gone 2 months without anything (at times) so i do know a little bit how you feel. Amazing what you can survive when you have to ain't it??