Laughing -- Thanks so much for the kind words! It's great to hear that you're reading and enjoying the thread
Pam -- Where the heck are you? No new thread from you all week? What's up, girlfriend?
*********** I'm just going to rant for a split second and then get back to normal.
I am having a horrendous day at work -- a two hour meeting with the biggest pain in my butt here all over how he's torquing my team up constantly. It's amazing how one guy can throw an entire department into turmoil.
Anyway, I was supposed to call h (we had a great AM -- went to the gym, went out to breakfast) and I was so peeved I debated not calling but DID and said "just so you know, I'm pretty upset about work stuff right now. I debated not calling but I always feel better after I talk with you".
We talked for about 3 minutes. He asked me a few questions about what was going on at work. Gave validating answers. Then seemed to "rush" me off the phone (OK, OK, I'm ASSuming). Not only that but at one point right after he answered the phone I heard him typing on his computer.
RANT: h -- if you're too busy to talk with me please just say so. Please do not type on the computer while I'm talking with you -- even if I'm just talking about the weather. If you're bored, not interested, too busy, whatever just tell me that you need to go. It makes me feel like you're not listening to me when I hear you doing other things while we're talking. RANT OVER
sort of...let me get this off my chest...when I heard him typing and he rushed me off the phone I have to admit that I thought "Oh...is he IM'ing someone and letting them know I've called". Nice cheeseless tunnel.
Anyway -- I'm sure this is my work frustration coupled with some PMS but it pisses me off.
Rant Really over, now.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I have no idea why this cold/cough/nausea refuses to go away! I'm feeling mostly better today (well, the cough is better but my stomach still feels like crud).
Er... ...could you be pregnant?
This was happening to me right before I found out.
I have no idea why this cold/cough/nausea refuses to go away! I'm feeling mostly better today (well, the cough is better but my stomach still feels like crud).
Er... ...could you be pregnant?
My thoughts exactly!!! I didn't want to say anything at first but.....Thanks PIB!
Quote: sort of...let me get this off my chest...when I heard him typing and he rushed me off the phone I have to admit that I thought "Oh...is he IM'ing someone and letting them know I've called". Nice cheeseless tunnel.
Sage - you know my dictum - if you're going to ASSume, why not ASSume something nice? Maybe he was typing on the keyboard because he was in the middle of ordering some lovely pearl earrings for you for Xmas????
Pardon me...I'd like to raid your thread to ask for your assistance. Yesterday, you bumped a thread about the mind of a WAW and I was especially fascinated with Cylastra's (sp?) thoughts in addition to other WASes.
Could you please link that thread into mine so I can refer to it frequently? I am really needing that as I want to get in the mind of my W and understand where she is coming from.
well..let's just say that it's not impossible but probably not likely...I'll let ya know
Ellie, ya, I know...you are totally right! I can't wait to see those pearl earrings!
****** Regardless of what h was doing on the computer he rallied in such a huge way that I feel a little foolish...I got home from work (actually, from acupuncture...which lightened my crappy mood enormously) and h met me at the door. He yelled "be ready to go in five minutes!" and then showed me two cards he had bought me (one to say "get better soon" and the other to give me moral support over both the illness and the work stuff)..and also a fancy candy bar . Then he whisked me off for a great dinner at a nearby restaurant and then a movie ("Ocean's Twelve" which I enjoyed quite a bit). All in all he took control of cheering me up and letting me know how much he loves me. It was awesome, I thanked him profusely...a great night.
He's off at school right now. I'm home, allegedly preparing for h's family's holiday party next weekend (we're hosting)! I'm meeting him later in town...we're going to take a LONG walk around the city.
Lucky, happy, grateful Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Had a great end of the weekend and yesterday was good too. h starts exams today and he's also got a horrendous backache so his stress level is HIGH to say the least. He's totally going to be in break mode after Friday, though, which is GREAT. A couple of weeks of total relaxation for him!! Hooray!
He's been sharing thoughts and feelings with me -- stuff that maybe he wouldn't have said at one time or maybe I'm just hearing it more clearly now. Either way, it's good stuff. Here's my cainercast...couldn't feel more true:
Do you know how lucky you are? Do you know how much you have to celebrate? You will soon find out. The recent New Moon in your opposite sign has made it possible for you to see a certain situation from a different perspective. This will help you feel a lot less worried about all the small, confusing factors which have lately been upsetting you so much. Inspiring developments are due soon. You will decide that there is justice in this world after all. And that there is also, clearly, lots of hope.
Minnie, yes, acupuncture is going well. I found another practitioner and feel much more comfortable about going to her. Thanks for asking!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Hi - don't know if I'll get any reply here since this thread is old- but someone suggested on my post that I look to experienced DBer's for advice. I will try to link to my thread.
In a nutshell- I feel I have tried a lot of DBing techniques and at times very little things seemed to improve, but H is very passive- If you look at my sitch I found a disturbing note and confronted H - anti DB -but we did have a good conversation where no one freaked out or walked out- H admitted that he had feelings for OW says no PA -but both think about never said -but it is there. I asked if he could cut off contact- He said he wasn't sure. I told him I know it will be hard , but he can still talk to me about it- Then I found out just how much he's been talking to here and I told him simply he needed to leave- See my sitch for details- I feel it was the only way- He needs to be away from me and I need to be way from him. Now how do we start to talk- Here are a few more details- I guess I'll add them to my original post in newcomers- Sage- your sitch reminds me so much of my own - I would love to hear some advice or thoughts on what is going on- Or from anyone else with experience in this area.
...could you be pregnant?
but probably not likely...I'll let ya know 
He's totally going to be in break mode after Friday, though, which is GREAT. A couple of weeks of total relaxation for him!! Hooray!