busy day at work today! Got a number of things done which is a big relief!
Met h last night for drinks/dinner. we talked about school and stuff. He told me that he's been thinking about all the dates we can have during Dec/Jan when we're both out of school! Then he started talking about the summer and all the stuff we'll do THEN. Very nice indeed.
We went to breakfast together this AM. We haven't done that in a while due to school/illness. It's funny...it's 45 minutes or so out of our "normal schedule" and we don't even really TALK to each other while we're there (reading the paper) but it's a very enjoyable date nonetheless.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Last night was an impromptu "errand night" at h's suggestion (we normally do thursdays -- have missed a few weeks due to illness and won't be able to do tonights!). I really love that he suggested it -- AND that he was in the middle of cleaning up the litterboxes/vacuuming when I got home! Thankyouthankyou for this man who now does SO MUCH around the house.
Along those lines, we hosting his family's annual xmas party in a few weeks. H suggested last night that we make a list of every single task we could think of, big and small, leading up to it so that we can keep track of them. What a "sage" suggestion (pun intended). In the past, I would have rushed forward to create that list...it makes it MUCH better if we're in agreement/it comes from him!
So, we went food shopping last night and then ate at home. Watched some tv. A nice relaxing night all around.
I forgot a very cute thing h did at breakfast yesterday. I had gone to the ladies room and when I got back noticed tha the had made a heart on a napkin out of mustard. What a romantic! I think I need to flex MY romantic muscles a bit!!!
h has a big presentation at school tonight. we talked about it a bit and he sounds really well prepared for it. I wish I could see him do it but I guess I'll have to settle for a reenactment later!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I was wondering is this the man you married and the one in the middle just when things got taken for granted and all that other junk that happens if you don't nurture a relationship?
Go Sage!!!!!!!!!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I was wondering is this the man you married and the one in the middle just when things got taken for granted and all that other junk that happens if you don't nurture a relationship?
It's an interesting question, Ms. Pam...
At one time I would have said "nope, not the man I married...new guy all around" but some months ago I was re-reading some letters that h had written me during our "courtship" (all 10+ years of it!) and the letters were wonderfully romantic. It made me wonder/realize that I think I haven't been "hearing" or "seeing" this side of him even though it's been present all along. I think I've been so busy dealing with my ASSumptions and righteousness that I forgot to see what was right in front of me.
All that being said, I think that the "middle" part of the R had a negative effect on both of us...even well before the EA and the bomb, I think we were both very polarized and detrimental in the way that we treated each other. A good read of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" would have saved us both a fair amount of trouble, actually.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Met h in town after his presentation. The drive in was hellish. But I got there in one piece and met up with h. He was totally pumped up and told me all about his presentation. It sounds like it went enormously well!
We went to a new (well new to us!) place for drinks and dinner. the food was quite good. It was wonderful to sit and listen to him talk about how excited he is. He also asked me quite a bit about work, too.
This morning I slept a bit later than usual and h was very sweet. He gave me some morning hugs in bed (something I absolutely adore) and then made me coffee! Good stuff all around.
He's asked me a few things over the last day or so that make me think he's feeling a bit unsure of how I'm feeling -- just stuff like "am I dragging you into town too much" and the like. I don't **think** it's that I'm conveying feeling overburdened! (least I hope not) ... I think I'll kick up my reassurance a bit (I had actually been pulling back a bit 'cause he seemed like he needed a bit of space for a few days). Anyway...looking forward to the weekend and my LAST CLASS of the semester on Monday!
Yahoo!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Wanted to post one other thing...as a reminder to myself.
h told me last night (he's said this before) that he loves getting e-mails from me. I often send him "welcome to school" ones. Anyway, it was good to hear because quite frankly, I have been feeling a bit discouraged this past week because he wasn't responding to many of them. Or so it seemed. Anyway, it's a good reminder that sending the emails doesn't make me feel good if I'm wrapping them up in a bunch of expecations of how he "should" respond.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Had a really nice weekend. Friday I met h in town and we went for a quick bite and a movie. He had been at school at a study group. I asked who was in his group and he started telling me the names -- he got a pained look on his face as he said one of the names -- same one as xow (it's not a particularly common name) -- and he said "I'm sorry honey". I gave the literal and figuritive wave of my hand and just asked him some questions about what they had studied. DB points to Sage!
Saturday we went hiking in the am. Then h went to school to try out for the trial team. I did homework and organized my checkbook, paid bills, etc. while he was gone. He came home after a few hours and we went to see "Closer" -- it was a very good movie (it does contain infidelity, however, but there was only one or two scenes that cut too close to home -- one where one of the characters says to her partner "there was a moment when you decided between 'I will not do this. I will hold my ground' or 'I will do this'. What about that moment?").
Anyway, on the way to the movie we talked a bit about his competition. He said that he felt like I had been there with him He also said that when he gets nervous about stuff he thinks "How badly can it be? I can go home to Sage" which was just about the most loving and open thing I think I've heard. It was difficult not to get teary eyed over that!
Sunday we were two ships that pass in the night for most of the day! Hung out a bit in the AM then I went off to a school study group. While I was gone, h went to a friend's to watch football. He got home around 6pm. We had a great dinner (I had picked up a chicken pot pie) and then watched TV. Fairly early to bed!
Lots of positives goin' on in Sage's world.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quote: he got a pained look on his face as he said one of the names -- same one as xow (it's not a particularly common name) -- and he said "I'm sorry honey".
The best thing about this was he trusted you enough to say the name. He didn't have to - he could have left it out. Way to go, Sage!
But I got there in one piece and met up with h. He was totally pumped up and told me all about his presentation. It sounds like it went enormously well!