Had a quiet night last night...h is getting sick (in full blown sick mode as of the AM) so we ate light, snuggled up on the couch, just relaxed together. I had had a bad day and his was even worse so just being together was the right prescription.

H seems to be coming down with something...he's got a sore throat, congestion, etc. He stayed home from school today so I KNOW he's ill! I never feel particularly successful at being supportive during these times...stuggle with the fine line between sympathy and smothering! BUT I think I did good this AM...before I left for work I set up the fold out couch/bed in the TV room (h was still in our room)...put sheets on, blankets, put the remote controls by the bed, laid out the sports section, etc. He called earlier and made special note of it so I think he was happy.

I'll stop off on the way home and get some medicine and try to pick up some good food...I think that sometimes I overdo and make it seem like these things might "cure" him which I think is invalidating...I want to be careful to let him know that I'm trying to ease his symptoms but I'm not rushing him or invalidating his current state. Not sure that makes sense but I know what I mean!

Lots of positives last night despite the illness -- snuggling, a nice conversation about school, lots of appreciation from h about stuff done, some kind words from him, too.

Sage

PS Thanks to the visitors!!! I appreciate the positive feedback!

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.