Looking backward...but only to move forward

[sage]

Hi Sage - It is both an inspiration, and a comfort to travel back through your eyes - and see, with hindsight, the signs that things were working. It really is more about our own ability to handle ourselves, isn't it?

Slowly

Slowly -- thanks so much for the kind words. I started feeling a bit self-indulgent yesterday for revisiting all of these threads but then I realized that I DO want one place to visit and remind myself what really works to turn things around...

It does seem to all come back to focusing on what we can control within ourselves. I'm also re-listening to Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and I'm reminded yet again how that text really helps me get my head out of my butt (when combined with DB'ing, of course!)

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had a great night with h. we had planned to meet at home but he had some last minute work to do so he asked me to pick him up at the subway and go to dinner. I think I scored some points by being accommodating to the change of plans Since he couldn't meet until 8:30 I went home first and took care of a bunch of small things around the house. I had been lazy at home lately but Ellie (KML)posted on a thread in newcomers and I was reminded by how these little AOS really resonate with h so I kicked it up a notch!

I picked him up and we ate. He was bursting with info about school and it was very exciting to see how enthusiastic he is! He was talking about a whole bunch of stuff but then kept asking me about me, as well. On the way home he read me some parts of his paper, saying that he "loves to bounce stuff off of me" that is VERY cool!

He's got a big interview at 4pm EST so please send good vibes!!!

Sage