Looking backward...but only to move forward

[sage]

IF he is so committed to building, why is he finding excuses to spend less time working on the relationship that is floundering?

Can you think of a time when you felt committed to something but still had a difficult time motivating yourself to make the effort?

Perhaps not.

But I sure can for myself....

Why? Different reasons...maybe I was afraid I would fail. Maybe I was unsure about what steps to take first. Maybe I was unsure on the other person's commitment. Maybe...

I'm sure you get my point.

What if you ASSumed that h was not implementing changes because he was concerned, overwhelmed, unsure of success, afraid or any other emotion save for disinterested? Would that change your approach?

Sage