Thanks for the input. I seldom have a chance to have any input until the efforts are done. He brags on himself, and takes time away from our relationship (which needs the time desperately). As far as either freaking out or cutting back - he does neither, unless you count cutting back on anything that involves home and family. When he does these extras, he ends up having to do an all nighter to make up for lost time. This saps his energy, and in the end, takes more time away from us. It was H that worte he was committed to "rebuilding, or starting over, as much as is necessary for us to make it another 30 years. We have a history and loyalty to each other that provide a strong foundation for building a life and marriage."
IF he is so committed to building, why is he finding excuses to spend less time working on the relationship that is floundering?
