Looking backward...but only to move forward

[sage]

And what did you say to tell H how awesome you feel this is?

I sent him an email...here's the jist:

OMG,OMG,OMG

I have chills right now like you could not (*&^% believe.

Excuse the swearing.

NO. SCREW IT!

YOU ARE *&&^%$%^& AWESOME!!!!!!!

Honey, I am completely and utterly in parallel universes right now...shocked and delighted in one but "yah, of course he'd get both" in the other!!!

ILYSOMUCHYOUBIGBRAINGUY!

and his response:

Honey,

This is the BEST positive reinforcement ever!!!

I love you so much!!

When H does "extras" at work (which generally entail his doing someone else's job in addition to his own), I see it as an added stress on him which allows him less time for his education and his own job. It also lets the other person off the hook of learning to do their own job.

Genie, why not let your h decide that for himself? Aren't you sort of letting HIM off the hook to figure out what is doable and what isn't?

I know it's difficult (because don't we want to help...guide...support) but what I've figured out is that my h is goal oriented and can handle his own schedule...if he gets overwhelmed he either freaks out for a while OR he cuts back...ya know?

Sage