Ok, so she really could potentially have a physical reason for her problems...In some way that's encouraging and frustrating as well I'm guessing, however; if she used to be sexual it's probably not an abuse issue)...but I wouldn't rule it out either.
Just FYI...my mother went through (is going through) the other issues you've mentioned. She doesn't take testosterone per-say. But she does take a medication that helps to level out other parts of her system.
One thing you need to keep in mind is, that if she should agree to go get tested...and the Doc. does find she needs medication...the medication itself could take up to a month or more to kick in. It's not a quick fix, and my mom still doesn't have a raging libido.
I've got to point out something...you've never answered any of our questions on what YOU are doing to change. A change in your behavior can cause a change in hers.
Are you avoiding answering those questions? Do you not know what type of changes you should make? Or, and yes...I'm going to put this out there....are you being stubborn, saying "it's not me dammit, why should I change...I'm not the one with the problem!"?
Sorry, I just feel compelled to ask these things. Afterall, we've all felt that way....but as you may have noticed....those of us who FINALLY understood we needed to make changes within ourselves have had some success with our relationships (although I'm still in the infancy stage myself).
I'm guessing, however; if she used to be sexual it's probably not an abuse issue)...but I wouldn't rule it out either.
