I think our problems are both physical and emotional. I can work on the emotional part, but the physical part is the driving cause of low libido for her I think. Here is what I know are potential problems:
1) She gained a lot of weight with each child and finds it very hard to lose. 2) She has a hypoactive thyroid, and their side effects are trouble losing weight and loss of libido. 3) The medicine she takes for the thyroid on rare occasions causes lose of libido. 4) She was abused as a child and may have been sexually abused. 5) She is premenopause. Some of her joints ache. Irregular periods. 6) She is 45, and proably has lost a lot of her testosterone.
I have suggested she be tested for testosterone. She immediately says she will not take it. Can't say as I blame her because testosterone can have some serious side effects in women, from hair growth to liver damage. So even if I fix the emotional problems, there is still a boat load of physical problems to address. Not sure I can ever fix enough of the problems to get through to her.
