After the last long discussion we had, I know that neither of us is in love with the other. I want to fix this, her I am not so sure of. I want to make sure every avenue is explored before it really is over. I don't think that she believes she can be much of a women. She hates her body, our relationship needs work, menopause, and physical problems are really taking a toll on her body. I think it also bothers her that I don't change like her. She seems to act like people our age really should not be physical anymore. So there are a ton of problems that can be addressed. Unfortunately, there is very little that us guys can do that has any real impact on this problem. The way I am see this is that I must make ME attractive to her, I must tell here what I really want, and then unfortunately the rest is up to her. I wish there was more I could do to change the outcome, but it just seems that I am entirely at her mercy.
