Ok...I have tried all day yesterday to find a way to explain H and my past history without making him sound like a comlete A$$ and make me sound like a martyr.
There really is no way to say delicately that while I raised our DD22(twins).... I had no financial support from him and the girls and I didnt see or talk to him for 16 years. He married two other people...travelled the world, bought houses, cars, TOYS etc etc etc. I stayed in the town we grew up in, married one man who abused S20.
I dont feel H OWES me anything but I do feel that when he makes life altering decisions...that can and "DO" affect both of us , that my thoughts and feelings are acknowledged,appreciated and at the very least considered. After all it is MY life too!!
