Quote: well...Ruiz says (in "The Four Agreements") that you will let people treat you as badly as you treat yourself...and only if they treat you WORSE than you treat yourself will you leave...I'm sure that Dr. Phil would say something similar
...or Chuck, the DB coach
He said this to me, which sounds the opposite of the above but I wonder if it really isn't:
People rarely treat us with as much respect as we do ourselves. We need to treat ourselves with MORE respect, so that when people don't live up to our expectations and don't treat us as well, it doesn't rattle us as much.
Another thing he said right after is that in other parts of my life, I (Jennifer) am gutsy and courageous, sure of myself, but in my R, I'm cowering, mewling, unsure of myself. He says I should tap into that strength, courage, and confidence and use it in my R. And that includes setting boundaries and sticking to them.
