But I think you should post the process you have used to work on changing the assumptions!
Pam...what has worked for me is a couple of (related) approaches....the first is taking an ASSumption and just running with it...for example:
I am completely unloveable...which means that no one in the world loves me...which means that when h or mom or sis say they love me that they are lying...which means that I am surrounded by liars...which means that ...
see what I mean? If you take the ASSumption as gospel then where does it lead? often to an absurd place!
Sometimes, it's more about just "talking back" to the ASSumption...you have to try the alternate on for size...
I am completely unloveable.
No I am not. h and sis love me and tell me so.
well, they must be idiots.
what evidence do I have that they are idiots?
I don't have any.
if they are not idiots then maybe what they say is true...
ETC.
I think it's really about challenging your ASSumptions...talking back to them...holding them up the the light and looking for cracks...brainstorming...I think that writing it down really helps me.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
