Letting our light shine...Pam and Sage DB !!!

[sage]

2. Assumption - If anyone in my vicinity is in a bad mood, it MUST be because of something I said/did not say/did/did not do. How self centred is that Honestly, my capability to personalise other folks' issues is just so out there, its not funny.

oh can I relate to this. I know where it comes from for me...living with a depressed parent who alternated between "normal" and utterly silent for days on end. I became convinced that it was all about ME and that if I could just put together the right sequence of events, I could break mom's depression.

it's interesting (or lame) that I always thought that it was giving and generous to ASSume that I was responsible in some way for everyone's mood -- it took h screaming at me (more than once) "it's not all about you!" to hear how selfish and self-centered it really can be.

I still struggle with it because I just want to FIX things and if I ASSume it's about ME it makes it more likely...but Ruiz's "The Four Agreements" and constant vigilance has helped.

Life has certainly become much more relaxing now that I 'assume' nothing is my 'fault' unless someone actually says so. Of course, its still a balancing act between taking responsibility for things that I am accountable for, especially at work. This too is a process, with adjustments being made on the way, But, I do feel lighter for having shed what feels like an enormous weight

AWESOME!!!
Sage