I hope you don't mind me joining in here as well. I can, as MF mentioned, relate to so many of the things you mentioned.
My wants to D me because "we're too different", "We have nothing in common". I was thinking about these things last night as well as this thread and I realized that I agree with H and actually have more to add.
-I am boring, have no outside interests, don't have many friends, am too shy, have no interesting conversation, am not athletic, am a "geek", etc....so much so that even my H, who adored me, figured it out and left me....I've actually wondered what took him so long
*I have friends...have had the same friends for 15+ years...they must like SOMETHING about me.
-I don't know who I am or what I have to offer so how can I expect others to know
*I have started to stop controlling myself (yes, I know this sounds strange), to strop projecting a certain image of myself and just let myself BE.
-I am selfish and controlling.
-I feel the need to please my mom or be "down in the trenches" with her when there's a crisis with brother #1; if I don't, she will no longer love me.
-I am not smart enough for my job, much less a higher position.
-I don't have my own opinions; I need re-assurance from others.
*I've started to work on this through DB. I found something (DB) that I believe in, something that the "mainstream" doesn't necessarily know/agree with but I'm still standing by what I believe.
So, I know what's wrong; not sure how to DB msyelf though.
Thank you Sage for starting this thread; it came at the right time.
