That is interesting HP. You get upset/anxious when H rebuffs you, and I get that way when H doesn't make the moves on me. Either way, it's about rejection.
So, I avoid being rejected by getting into something negative with him...he gives me some provoking ammo, but I am the one who sets off.
It's good to recognize where the anxiety is coming from. I don't want to go through the whole upset routine...then I look like the emotional, nutty one.
Anyway, I am going to stay calm and he is going to have to push through his feelings to connect with me. He has already asked me what I want to do on Sat so that's a good sign.
I haven't brought up the schedule idea yet...last weekend when we had an extra hr bc of daylight savings time, H took the opporunity to intiate, which he wouldn't have done if there were a schedule in place. I am not sure I want to give up the idea of random spontaneity for more sexual security. Besides, like your H, mine will most definitely veto it,intially at least.
OK. Gotta go get my son...taking him to get his eyes checked--he may need glasses. My daughter will certainly have fun with that!
