Ahhh, I think I am getting what you are saying, MrsNOP.
That was a very wise post. I suppose I always take "relational issues" to mean that one person isn't giving X to the R and the other isn't giving Y. Sometimes I think that it is one person fcuking everything up, for inexplicable reasons.
For the record, this is NOT the case in my own situation. We were both guilty of not meeting the other's needs and ignoring our relationship--him neglecting our sexual relationship and me allowing that to continue; and me neglecting his need to share his spirituality with me and him allowing me to be so hateful about it.
But in other R's (I am thinking of my sister's marriage) her husband meets every one of her needs--she even says so--and yet she will not sleep with him or give him affection. She can't explain it and has no idea why.
Thank you for writing all that out; I totally get what you are saying now.
Now on to more important things: Junk food. Give me a thick juicy burger from some nappy looking tavern on a country road ANY time over tater tots, Sonic or not!
