Quote: Rationally I know he may be trying to simply meet my "needs" and keep an emotional distance from me (with the quickie)...however the other side of me also sees it as, hey! He's at least verbally recognized to me that this is something I need.
Sometimes a quickie is simply a quickie.
I guess it all depends on where the relationship currently is. I suggested a quickie the other night simply because we were running a bit behind time-wise and with the hormonal menopause/weightloss (expiring fat cells giving up their hormonal stores) bath that I'm going through, my time to orgasm is wildly variable. I wasn't attempting to avoid emotional closeness or make a relational statement, I just didn't want to push for it that night.
Does it seem that some of the difficulty of working through this is the inability to read each other (or the ability to misread), the lack of trust and/or past experiences affecting current events?
