My comment regarding being grateful for the small shows of desire, no matter how subtle, is that merely to point out that it's a starting point for the LD, they're making an effort and if we don't look to recognize some of those efforts we'll miss them.
I wasn't trying to suggest that we suck it up and continue to take those small displays of desire as a permanent band aid. Naturally at some point we'd all get pretty fed-up with the same small shows of desire.
My point was more to say that looking for those small shows of desire isn't easy...but if you can do that while your spouse is working on things it really does help. Fortunately for me right about the time I get really frustrated I see another "sign" that my LDH is working on things...something that is another stretch for him personally, although it would probably not be a stretch of any type for me.
