That's the conclusion I am coming to as well. I am learning to work around a less than ideal situation for me and to find happiness. I don't like feeling anxious wondering if H will initate, but I know that he really does need that room. It's also painful to know that he doesn't often desire me when I would like. But I feel I have reached a different level now; the best part of me wants to maneuver around my H's psychological stuff because I sense that he is really trying to make things work. It may not be exactly what I want, but when have I gotten exactly what I want? lol.
I feel as long as he is showing me effort, I can hang in there. Myabe this is love...the glue that holds things together despite all the issues and personal deficencies H and I have. From his POV, he would say that I am needy and that he is working with my hang-ups.
Anyway, you had a great nite...hope we both continue to have more of those!
