Your H is indeed interesting HP. It's like he needs your permission to give into his biology, which goes along with the self-control aspect of his personality. It's like ignoring that your stomach is growling from hunger until mom says it's time to eat. Maybe he sees this as a form of weakness. I know you are not a dominant lover, but it would be curious to see if he'd give in if you teased and tormented him, almost using reverse psychology (" you can't f**k me").
Anyway, hope you have a nice,loving nite tonite. BTW, the baby sounds sooo cute...I love our new puppy, but I am a baby person.