Quote: I have noticed that the more I seem that I don't want anything happening, the more likely he will initiate. Because I don't want to be disappointed on a given nite, I don't do anything to support my sex drive( I know this isn't one of your issues) and it becomes harder to turn that around ( but I manage,lol). I will initiate every so often but not on a consistent basis since I am so bad with rejection.
and Honeypot wrote:
Quote: Honestly, if I never thought about sex, I would not have much of a sex drive. LD people might say that you need a strong sex drive to generate the thoughts in the first place, I don't know.
But for me, thinking about it and looking forward to it keep the feelings alive. If I were constantly forcing the thoughts away I don't see how I would be able to maintain a libido.
This is what is meant by "supporting your sex drive." MB-ing certainly supports it, too, but just thinking about it, anticipating it, looking forward to it, etc. also supports it.
I have been disappointed so many times that I've been pretty much "stuffing" my sexy feelings recently. Can't find them...
Honey, did you read my earlier post on the "self-control" issue? It was right before your "I give up" post, so you may have overlooked it.
