MrsNOP,

I understand what you're saying...and I WISH my H was at that point. To be really honest though we haven't been working at it long at all...especially in comparison to many people on these BB's. I know change doesn't happen overnight...so fortunately for my H I'm a patient woman....who often gets frustrated!!!!

I broached the scheduled sex issue again with him the other night, he seemed more open to that this time...in the past it was downright distasteful to him. I'm pretty sure that he feels like a failure as a man (sexually speaking) because he just simply doesn't have the urge most men have to have sex.

I've gleaned from convo's we've had that in his younger days (he's only 44) this wasn't an issue for him. But he now suffers from quite a bit of sexual repression due to several years of severe squashing by others. It's pretty much these issues that he won't talk about (to anyone).

But I'm ever hopeful. And at least our relationship is going in the right direction now. I certainly didn't turn from LD to HD overnight, I know you didn't either....so I try to remind myself to be empathatic to him. I get frustrated sure But I do my best to get my frustration out quickly, re-group, and try, try, try again

Well behaved women rarely ever make history!