Quote: I'm right in that boat with you Honey! I've also come to the conclusion that my husband fits the arousal=desire pattern. He's fine once I get things started, but damn! It's frustrating to always have to be the one to do that
Maybe I'm simplifying too much, but as the LD in our relationship, I don't wait for my somewhat nebulous sexual senses to burst into flame before I grab NOP's butt, cop a feel or grab him and lay one on him. I don't know, but even among members in the arousal-then-desire club, it's not impossible or psychologically damaging to get "physical" during the day with your spouse -IF- both partner's have reached a place where they *want* to express care for each other. Dang, it's that old relationship talk again!
