I agree with Lil...it does sound like your H enjoys the feeling of self-control. You mentioned the same thing in other posts...that he gets hard-ons but doesn't use them. I guess it's a bit like passing up on that piece of chocolate ( at least that's what I can relate it to, lol). The thing is, he is sort of in his own world about all this, not recognizing that his actions have an effect on you. He passes up on the chocolate and therefore you have to as well.
