HP wrote: ------------ Not only did he not want sex but he wouldn't even touch me all night long. He would move his body close to mine but would NOT touch me. Especially with his hands. Once his leg or something did come in contact with me but he does this bizarre thing where he positions his body so that no part of his comes in contact with any part of mine and yet we are physically close enough to be considered snuggling. Sortof like our heads are close but our bodies are in a V shape. ------------
Another gentle nudge - he is running your sex life through his religious filters.
Ask him which one of these is not true.
a) It is okay to desire sex with my wife.
b) It is okay to enjoy passionate love making.
c) It is okay to think about having sex with my wife throughout the day.
d) It is okay to lust for my wife.
e) It is okay to be turned on without doing something about it.
Honey, in many posts, you have indicated that your husband is an extremely devoted catholic. He has even been somewhat misdirected considering leaving the marriage 'for God' so to speak.
Your husband obviously has a strong sense of familial responsibility, but obviously, even that can sometimes be supplanted by his desire to be a good catholic.
I suspect that regardless of the number of conversations regarding sex/religion/marriage that you have had, that he still takes religion 'to bed with him'.
Does he really know that God doesn't have a problem with marital sex? What the two of you do with each other sex wise, as long as it is not destructive, is okay. Does he understand that includes lusting for his wife? Is he hung up on the perception of 'lust' as it pertains to the mother of his children?
I have read everything you have written here, HP. I do agree that your hubby is a good guy. I also agree that he may have some lower drive issues. I also think that there is a significant religious overtone to his sexual interactions with you. I suspect that those 'overtones' are having a larger impact on your relationship than you realize.
Just something to consider....
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
