This is interesting since he seems to love "spiritual conversations"
Quote:

He doesn't like for me to whisper sweet nothings in his ear

I would expect "sweet nothings" about how you want to be close to him, how you appreciate him, how you love sharing your life with him, blah, blah, blah would be exactly the kind of stuff that would float his boat.

Does he totally divorce (excuse the expression) the Spiritual from the Physical/Sexual as all good Catholics were taught to do when I was a kid? (BTW, how old is he? Is he a pre- or post-Vatican II guy? I was in high school when Vatican II hit the fan, so I was raised in the "old fashioned Latin high mass priests were God" days. Probably one reason why I'm a Reform Jew today! )