Ooh, yeah, I struggle with that grass is greener thought a lot. There is NO one who would be a better husband to me than my H. He is the best! Best companion, father, you name it. He is it! People have always made fun of me because I have no shame in saying that I would walk to the ends of the earth for my H. I really would. He is just a phenomenal person.
But the longing for a man to want me (this morning I was calculating how many yrs it has been since I felt it w/o having to force it somehow and couldn't do it..I simply can't remember) is getting palpable.
I told him this weekend that I am fine now but I do live in fear that someday someone will take a fancy to me and I will fall for it hook, line and sinker. What a disastrous thing that would be. Not cheating necessarily because I don't think I would do that--I would probably just leave. Either way it would be devastating to him and myself and our family. WHAT IF, H? I asked. He was flabbergasted that this was even a fear of mine. I told him that if a woman ever comes along who woos him with spiritual discussions and he falls for her, that I would consider that I have a big personal responsibility in making that happen. That by neglecting to do something that I know makes him happy and fulfilled, I am leaving the door open for someone else to step in and do it. He replied that I do not understand God and how one gets close to Him. That if you are close to God, there is no room for another person to enter the picture.
How naive he is.
On another note, how VERY interesting that your W initiates by the Just Grab It method, also! I think there is something to that...that is how he (and she) gets turned on so that is how he does it to me. Here all this time I was thinking that he just intentionally wants to do it the same way every time because he is boring....I know, not the most positive way to frame things. So thank you for giving me another perspective.
He doesn't like for me to whisper sweet nothings in his ear, etc, so that would explain why it would not occur to him--or would make him uncomfortable--to do it to me.
Why do we love our spouses the way we want to be loved, instead of how they like it?
I mean, people KNOW all about love languages but I've yet to see a person who is successful in the long term with this approach. Seems we all fall back into familiar habits.
