HP,

I hear every word you are saying here. I feel the same way more often than not. I guess, like you, at least we have a sex life now, it is just that it is too predictable. The joke here lately has been about me getting a "stunt wife" to take care of the scenes she doesn't feel up to doing In my case, there's no evidence that there are any visual or aural cues that will jump start desire either. The only thing that gets it started is touch. Odd thing, is since that is the only way I can get her started, it is also the only way she'll initiate...by going straight for the naughty bits. If you figure out a way, let us all know. I have to wonder how much of a grass is always greener syndrome we suffer from too. I'm sure there is something better out there, but what are the odds of really finding it, even if we did decide to throw in the towel and leave? Sadly, I'm coming to the conclusion that the best we can do is accept it as this is just the way it is like it or leave it (a very difficult option for those of us with kids as well as religious convictions). As I mentioned before, I'm looking to find whatever sparks of desire I can find. I think they are there sometimes, but not like they are for a HD person, and it isn't of the bodice ripping, anywhere, anytime variety either

--GGB who doesn't wear a bodice, but still wants it ripped off without having to also write the script.

ps, a good sex life by definition has holes in it