I'll echo GEL: I am SOOOOO with you on this one! I could have written every word of your original post (minus the part about children/pregnancy, etc.).
Ask yourself if this would be MORE aggravating: my bf DOES spoon me (both of us naked), give me long hugs and tongue kisses during the day, but NEVER initiates actual LM. He can get an erection, and I'll even suck him for a few minutes in the kitchen or living room or something, then he will just put it away and walk away. If I escalate, he might or might not take it to the next level. If I get turned on, I would take it to the next level, but frankly sucking a guy who can take it or leave it is not a turn-on for me.
What you said here is for me the bottom line:
Quote: He needs to stretch himself and grow. He needs to stick his neck out and attempt to show his inner sexual self to me.
He tells you to appreciate what you have (I can see that you do already) and get used to this little thing being not quite right... LITTLE THING??? This is not something small and insignificant!! Sorry, must run... must run outside and S-C-R-E-A-M at the top of my lungs!!
