I found SSM almost immediately after finding out about the A. I realized that I was the low desire person and sex was not that important to me. However it was to my husband. I immediately let him know about the book and how it was as if they had been in our bedroom. He read some of it. I always enjoyed sex, but never felt a need for it. Right away, I made major efforts to spice things up and we have made love more times in the last three months than in the last eight years! I guess now I need him to do a few things to help me recover, but I get mostly words. I'm sorry, it will never happen again, ILU, etc. I need more. I told him flowers, perfume would be nice but he does not seem to get it. This has hurt me to the core and I don't know how to recover. When I read some of these posts I know I am "lucky", but I just don't feel that way. Thanks for the input.
