No, I don't think my needs were met. I remember he would try to talk to me about his needs and I would tell him about mine. Then neither one of us would give any. We are in a situation where H travels-and there is not much time for us. o I did not want to spend it arguing. I have indicated this travelling will have to end if things are going to improve. I can't trust him right now. I can't be mom, dad, wife, employee, and fix our marriage too. this has been my beef all along.
I have done alot of positive things since I found out about A. I got a new challenging job, started working out, bought some new clothes, etc. But when I stop, I have these terrible feelings that I am alone on Saturday night again. I just want to stop crying and asking how could you do this to me. I have already read the five love languages. In fact we spent 7 weeks at church dicussing them (my husband was not there) and I realized that I had not been loving him as he needed to be loved and stepped up to the plate. Things were improving, slowly but improving. Then after 6 months, I get the call from OW asking me if my husband had asked me for a divirce. I was floored, completely, and have been picking up the pieces ever since. I am a very private person, and other than a counselor at church, an DB, i have shared this with noone.
