Yes, I have to give her that... she did realize that some kind of remedy was in order, and came up with something rather inventive. I do hope it works out the way she envisions. We have 3 kids... 20 (wait... she had a birthday recently - she's now 21!), 18 and 12 (almost 13). No, we don't really need a babysitter, but our financial situation (not to mention work and other commitments) prohibits romantic weekends, and anyway, you can read in a previous thread about our attempt at a romantic weekend away to celebrate our 25th anniversary (didn't work out too well...). So, even though I agree we've made progress, we ARE still struggling, and not making near as much headway as others here like HP, Mojo and the Daves.
S12 goes to bed now about 9:00 on weekdays, but is "up" till at least 9:30, and S18 and DD21 stay up till (at least) 11. Sure, we can go to bed early, but then when S18 comes up to go to bed, W hears him creaking around and it pretty much destroys things for her.
My position is that we'd make better headway by working on trying to give her a different perspective on the privacy issue. IMHO it's due to her feelings about sex itself. She expresses it by saying she feels sex is a "private" thing, but in my experience this means she has to present a truly "asexual" self to the world - no-one must know she has a sexual side, LEAST of all the kids! I think this is not a healthy viewpoint, and I'm hoping that by working on this issue, we can improve the rest of our R. I dunno, maybe I'm totally offbase...
