The privacy issue is big. My W is really freaked out by this as well. I’m sure you remember me saying that one of the excuses W used to avoid ML was that she didn’t like the door on our bedroom. The deal was that we had French doors with louvers on the inside. The louvers could be swung open completely giving an unobstructed view through the glass, or closed allowing the louvers to be opened and closed similar to Venetian blinds. If the light in the room was good and if you positioned yourself just so on your knees outside of the door and pushed your face right up against the glass, it was possible to see through the little gap where the louvers pivoted on little pins in the louver frame and see just a small little sliver of the bed. What this had to do with ML at night, in the dark, while the kids were asleep, I never did figure out, but she felt that we didn’t have any privacy.
We’ve moved since then and have a regular door now, but now that the kids are older, the privacy issue is coming back. I get up at 4:00 and leave for work well before 5:00, so as you might imagine, we go to bed fairly early. I’ve never really needed eight hours of sleep (in fact, I have a hard time sleeping that long), but we’re usually in bed between 9:00 and 10:00 and about the latest we ever turn out the lights is when the weather goes off on the 10:00 news. Now that the kids are older (19, 16 & 13) it’s not unusual for them to still be up, or at least awake when we go to bed. And they’re right through the wall. Two of them anyway. They all have their own rooms, but D19 and D16 have slept together ever since D19 came to live with us (She’s really a girl who came to us as a high school exchange student in the summer of 2002. We fell in love with her and just decided to keep her. She’s living with us and I’m putting her through college.)
But the point is, they’re awake and right through the wall, so W will almost never ML at night. That’s why Saturday is our scheduled sex day. We’re both used to waking up early, but the kids, being good teenagers, will sleep until noon if we let them. Saturday morning is when I get lucky.
That’s a lot of talk to say that privacy can be very important, but I guess I’m just in a talkative mood today. Everything I’ve written has been long-winded.
