How can you be so clear on everyone else's threads (and you really are!) and clueless on your own? Ahh, that's the rub with this stuff.
Jennifer, can you break this down at all? I mean, break it down by time or type of interaction. Set yourself a goal of one day without being a shark, of being accomodating (or not) even when you are annoyed. I mean, with the car thing, you could have said "Yes" or "No, I can't, I'm sorry" and both would have worked better than what you said. No whacks, you've whacked enough....just to point out that the bad moments are NOT in saying yes vs. no--you still get to decide all this! But in how you conveyed it, coming out kinda sideways.
I'm really tired now, but I want to think about this and come back to this in the morning. I think it's important. You have a great opportunity here with S. So let's tackle what's not working, and also celebrate what is.
From a recovering shark who still snaps sometimes, GBO
