New Thread, New Me, New R

[Wendylon]

Hi Jennifer,

I hope your girlie sleep-over went well. Sounds blissful to spend time in person with another DBer. I imagine you feel recharged.

I find it soooo difficult not to pursue. I think it is part of being controlling and trying to allay my own anxieties about all not being just the way I want it to be. Unfortunately, my pursuing only exacerbates the problems--especially given the effect pursuit has on H. I've read some wonderful posts from you where you've been absolutely fantastic at not pursuing. I know you can do it.

Also, I'd expect to get the willies if I got out of crisis mode. Somewhere or other, I've read that after reconciliation, the betrayed partner becomes the bigger threat to the R.

Hang in there and enjoy YOU time.

Wendy

P.S. Jennifer, Which of your old threads has the most Chuck wisdom?
P.P.S. Betsey, thanks for clarifying about taking on other people's views. I think I understood what you were saying but probably sounded as if I didn't! At any rate, I understand even better now. I'm always pleased when I visit a thread and you are involved. I love how you steer the discussion into a very down to earth and practical direction. I know you're probably inundated with requests but I just wanted to say that I would love you to visit my thread! Also, how do I find yours?