New Thread, New Me, New R

[Wendylon]

Hi Jennifer,

Your posts are one of the reasons I decided to start posting. You write beautifully and I admire your honesty. I have learned a lot from your story.

I've always had male friends make me doubt that I was with the right person. In retrospect, I think many of my male friends' judgments were clouded by the fact that they fancied me somewhat. While Betsey's male friends turned out to be right, I can remember some male friends who tried to put me off my first long-term boyfriend at university. We ended up not staying together because I came to the UK for graduate school and he went to California. I saw him again this summer after 20 years. He is married now. I definitely think we could have made it as a couple. All this to say that I think my male friends' views turned out to be wrong.

I think other people's views are important but that they are so multiply controlled that we need to think about them carefully. At the moment, I have two male friends who are recommending that I give my H the boot. They say that H will only recommit if he is forced into a separation first. They may have a point but I'm not willing to take that gamble at the moment.

By the way, I've followed your instructions to Anne about how to get your thread in your signature. I hope I've got it right.

On another note, I really liked your birthday card to your WASO. My H is into meditation and it definitely would have appealed to him.

Wendy