Thanks, GBO.
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and when ARE you and H2H going to take a western vacation over here--plenty 'o sailing, H2H!, and lots of great food!)

You let me know what the warmest time is over there and I'll be there! I spent one summer in SF and nearly froze my patooties off. Spending June and July in a ski jacket (unless I am in Chile skiing ) was NOT my idea of a good time. Of course, I expect I'll be spending a lot of this winter in Vermont...

Anyway, I think you are right in some respects, although Swiss Miss is exotic in the way that she travels a lot. Of course, this makes her "Miss [OW's first name] Bond, International Woman of Mystery" (according to a letter S. wrote to her, YUCK)! But what did all MY traveling make me? S said, "You're unavailable to me. I want to be with someone who isn't running off halfway across the world for three weeks every two months."

I used to travel a LOT, especially when we first met. The week before we met, I was in Istanbul and Bulgaria for 10 days. Immediately after we met, I took off for Korea and Thailand for a month. Then Panama for 10 days, then Italy for three weeks, and a week in Puerto Rico, then Tunisia for three weeks. Not to mention a long weekend in London, a week in Denmark, and two weeks in Spain. AND, with frequent trips to Paris (where I lived for three years and have many friends) in between all these trips.

So I don't know. I think you're also right that I represent volatility and some kind of potential stability for him. I mean, I do go up to Vermont and toil in the woods and cocoon with him at night and stay home to watch movies together, but the image sticks... perpetuated by the fact that I go out with my friends (rather than having them over - this is New York after all, and people don't generally go to each other's apartment, AND I have the couple I live with), and when we were split up I was (evidenced by the dark window ) "out" all the time.

He says, often enough so I know it's a big deal, "I'm afraid you want to be a party girl." And let's not forget the matter of money. I've just extricated myself from a lot of consumer debt, which is a matter of great concern to S., who has been plotting and planning and socking away for his retirement since he was 21.

Anyway, I guess this is a good time to think about how I can extricate myself from this image. Back for a next installment soon.

Jennifer

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