Thanks, Slowly, perspective IS grand! I knew enough not to open my mouth and b*tch my way out of the house as the door was practically closing on my heels. I do recognize his need for cave time, and I'm usually pretty good about the pre-emptive withdrawal. Last night was just so annoying because it felt like he wasn't taking care of me in ANY way - I mean, I was already asleep! I'm over it now, but I thought it was so rude.

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OK, here's where I take stock and gather my troops and take a deep breath... and get back to work. As I posted over on MovingForward's thread, I've been getting angry at all the ways HE isn't doing for ME. So now I need to get back to strong me, fabulous me, loving detachment me, still getting a life me.

Here are some S-T goals (off the top of my head) for this week and next:

1. This week will be very busy for both S. and me. I will take the opportunity of S's absence to get work done, spend some time with my dear friends and housemates (H and his BF), and finish purging the piles of accumulated papers from my room and office.
2. It is still warm, so I will get some outdoor exercise - ride my bike or run in the park. Yoga gives me great tone, but the cardio has all but fallen by the wayside. I need some blood-pumping exercise.
3. I need to spend some time drumming up new clients, as the project I am working on is coming to a close. I don't have time to solicit right away, but I can at least put some preliminary feelers out.
4. Start my paper journal up again. I have been neglecting it (and myself), and I could use some good self-reflection these days.
5. Make a more genuine effort to speak S's LLs this week, without being overbearing. One thing I could work on is WOA. I have been criticizing a lot lately.


Tonight S. and I go to the theater with my H & H's BF. After the theater, I go to the paper with S. to be in the excitement of a major news organization as the election results come in!

Goals for tonight: Stay out of S's hair while he works, be out of sight for awhile, not be afraid to meet people on my own, not make S. feel he has to babysit me.

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